Here, we choose to let go of angry, punishing reactions towards people, animals, plants, and even objects. If such negative attitudes arise, we make a commitment not to nurture them and to cut them off as quickly as possible.
The Buddha emphasized the importance of releasing ill will. He even suggested that we should practice good will towards others, wishing them the best, even when we are being mistreated.
However, this doesn’t mean ignoring injustice or mistreatment, whether directed at ourselves or others. It also doesn’t mean avoiding actions that protect and improve situations. It’s completely acceptable to defend and assert yourself, pursue your interests, and advocate for others, as long as these actions are carried out with wisdom and good will. This idea is poignantly illustrated in the Dalai Lama’s reference to “my friends, the enemy Chinese.”
On a day-to-day basis, managing ill will can be really tough, especially when we feel deeply wronged. For guidance, you can refer to a resource titled, “21 Ways to Turn Ill Will to Good Will.”