I remember a time when people usually answered “good” when you asked them, “How are you?” Nowadays, the common response is “busy.”
In recent months, I’ve also been incredibly busy, feeling scattered and pulled in multiple directions. My attention jumps from one task to another, leaving me feeling like an overstretched octopus between two sheets of glass.
Do you know that feeling? It’s not just unpleasant; it’s also a source of stress and strangely contagious. This busyness, fueled by consumerism, has led to a Western, especially American, culture obsessed with being busy. If you’re not busy, you’re seen as unimportant. If your kids aren’t swamped with homework and activities, they’re perceived as falling behind. If you don’t look busy, someone will add more to your plate. It’s time to stop. Instead of being scattered, focus your mind and energy. This focus not only feels better but is also more effective in the long run. Think about how an Olympic gymnast centers themselves before a routine or how a rocket aligns before takeoff.
1. Enjoy Pleasure
As our brains evolved, pleasure and its associated endorphins developed to pull us out of stress and keep us balanced. Allow yourself to fully enjoy physical or mental pleasures instead of constantly seeking the next thing.
2. Move
Engaging in activities like dancing, exercising, yoga, walking, or playing sports can reset your body and mind. For me, both subtle and vigorous movements have the most significant impact.
3. Embrace Nature
Our ancestors thrived in natural settings, and studies show these environments — whether it’s the beach, wilderness, or just sitting under a tree — are incredibly restorative.
4. Appreciate Art
Create or experience something beautiful. This could mean crafting, listening to music, watching a play, trying a new recipe, playing an instrument, building something, or taking a pottery class.
5. Listen to Your Body
Most signals to your brain come from your own body, often reassuring you that “all is well.” Paying attention to your breathing and sensing your physical state can help you feel centered and grounded.
6. Be Present
Focus on the present moment. Unlike other species, humans have the unique ability to think about the past and future. However, this can lead to unnecessary worries and stress. Instead, concentrate on the here and now.
7. Adjust Expectations
Realize that the goals and rewards our ancient brain centers pursue often fall short of their promises. Constantly reminding myself to stop chasing unattainable rewards helps me return to a state of feeling peaceful, content, and loved. This mindset is the home base for your body, brain, and mind.
Come back to your center.