Hatred can’t be quelled by more hatred; only by love can it be subdued.
Leading up to the US presidential election, my emotions were all over the place. As a “Resident Alien,” I couldn’t vote, but I still had concerns about how the election would affect my life. When the results didn’t go as I hoped, and it seemed unimaginable that Donald Trump could win, I felt a surprising sense of calm. The outcome was unexpected, especially since many viewed him as unfit to be president due to his behavior and lack of knowledge.
The uncertainty had been nerve-wracking. As it became clear that Clinton would lose, I realized we have to accept what can’t be changed. The day Trump won, reactions were mixed. Some were stunned, others angry, and many worried about the future.
We now face a president who has encouraged hatred and insensitivity, mocked a disabled reporter, bragged about sexual assault, defrauded contractors, and is dealing with fraud and rape charges. His actions, including emboldening violent supporters and showing disdain for various groups, are deeply troubling.
The prospect of economic turmoil, loss of health insurance for millions, and ignoring climate change, which he deems a hoax, adds to the concern. But it’s the spread of hatred that’s most alarming.
In dealing with this, here are some steps to consider:
First, if you’re in shock, remember that not much has changed immediately. True, global markets may be uneasy, but for now, our daily lives remain the same. The real challenge is our reaction—our fear of what might happen. Our minds often exaggerate potential disasters, causing unnecessary suffering. So, take a deep breath and try to stay grounded. We don’t know exactly what the future holds. Trump may face significant legal challenges or fail to fulfill his promises. What matters most is our current reality.
If you’re feeling scared, acknowledge it and offer yourself kindness and compassion. We all need love and support, and we can provide that for ourselves.
Second, remember that political change takes time. While we might face tough times ahead, the world is gradually becoming more diverse and interconnected. Contrary to what the news might suggest, global society is leaning towards tolerance and peace.
Third, show kindness and compassion to those close to you. This morning, I spoke lovingly with my girlfriend, imagining a hug, which filled me with joy. Supporting each other through difficult times is crucial. We can’t afford to make ourselves and others miserable.
Fourth, practice empathy toward those you disagree with. Hatred and contempt for Trump’s supporters won’t help. Many of them voted out of desperation. Their fears and insecurities, mostly economic and social, drive their actions. Understanding this, we should respond with compassion, not criticism. Even Trump’s extreme supporters are driven by fear of losing their privileged status—a fear that causes suffering.
If we witness local acts of hatred, we should counteract them with love. Harsh resistance only breeds more hostility. Empathy in our responses can promote unity and understanding. We’re all in this together, and antagonism will only hinder our ability to thrive and find happiness.
Everyone suffers in their own way, and our attempts to alleviate that suffering often cause more harm. The world may seem filled with hatred and division, but these are misguided strategies for dealing with fear. Underneath, there are suffering hearts that need guidance toward love, compassion, and wisdom. By modeling these values, we can help heal our society.
Thank you for reading. Let’s continue this journey of understanding and compassion together.