This article explains the concept of self-compassion and how it can be cultivated. Self-compassion means treating ourselves with the same kindness, respect, and gentleness that we would offer to our loved ones.
There are four key components to self-compassion:
1. Mindfulness: This is the ability to observe our experiences without getting completely caught up in them. It’s about stepping back from our thoughts, feelings, and sensations and viewing them as separate from ourselves rather than defining who we are.
2. Equanimity: This involves accepting difficult experiences instead of denying, ignoring, or obsessing over them. It’s about maintaining a level-headed approach during tough times.
3. Self-kindness: This means treating ourselves with gentleness, understanding, and compassion. It’s recognizing that we have feelings and that happiness and well-being are states we all desire. These positive states come easier when we are kind to ourselves.
4. Perspective: This is the ability to see our suffering in the context of a shared human experience. Everyone finds happiness hard to attain and faces suffering. Without perspective, we might think our struggles signify personal failure. A wiser perspective helps us avoid self-judgment and fosters compassion for both ourselves and others.
These components are interconnected and often overlap. For example, mindfulness, equanimity, and perspective are all forms of self-kindness. When we’re kind to ourselves, we naturally act with mindfulness, equanimity, and perspective.
Throughout the associated course, these elements will be integrated into various writings and guided meditations. The initial meditation, “kindfulness of breathing,” combines mindfulness, equanimity, and kindness.
This philosophy and practice of self-compassion offer a helpful and supportive approach to personal well-being.