Some time ago, I received a message from a woman who seemed worried that my life as a Buddhist must be pretty dull—mostly just meditating and “being good” all the time. It felt like she thought I’d be quite boring to hang out with. Maybe she was also expressing her own worries about getting involved in Buddhist practices.
This evening, I came back from an improv comedy show, and it was amazing. The performers were hilarious and in great spirits. I had a fantastic time, which is probably not what that woman imagined a Buddhist would be doing.
I wrote back to her explaining that Buddhism, to me, is more about principles and guidelines for living rather than strict rules. I shared some of these guiding principles:
Together, these principles almost form a personal philosophy. Any such philosophy includes the guidelines you follow—or aim to follow—in your life. In fact, I’m going to print out this list because I need regular reminders of how I want to live. It’s not about rigid rules or just “being good.” It’s about living in a way that brings deeper meaning, purpose, and connection.
What would your top three or four life guidelines be?
I would add this:
Sharing our wisdom and knowledge with those willing to listen or seeking guidance, whether our stories and experiences are successes or failures, helps the world learn and improve.
I completely agree!
If I had to choose my top three guidelines, they would be: 1) be kind to myself and others; 2) stay fully present in the moment, or at least keep returning to that state; and 3) be real, be authentic. Thanks for this thought-provoking message.
Here are my top three: 1) Don’t let age hold you back. It’s never too late to do or become what you’ve always wanted; 2) Smile and treat everyone you meet as if they were already your best friend; 3) Yes, you can—now go do it!