I have great respect for those who can confidently say they’ve been meditating daily for 10 or 20 years without missing a single day. While I’ve been meditating for 30 years, I’ve struggled to maintain that level of consistency. Although I’ve had months where I never skipped a day, there always seems to come a point where life interrupts, and I miss a day or two. Having two young kids and interrupted sleep certainly doesn’t make it easier.
Despite the inconsistency, I’ve made progress. I’m kinder, I’ve experienced various meditative states, including the jhānas, and I’ve gained some valuable insights. However, there’s a notable difference when I meditate daily without fail. During these times, my meditation practice truly flourishes. On the other hand, when I miss days, the quality of my meditation declines. It feels less constructive and more like mere maintenance, which also negatively impacts my overall quality of life.
I believe that those who meditate daily without fail see it as an intrinsic part of their identity. They don’t view it as an achievement but as a natural part of who they are. In contrast, those who struggle with consistency often view daily meditation as a goal they need to accomplish, accompanied by a lingering doubt: “Can I really do this?” This doubt often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How long does it take to solidify this confidence that daily meditation is just what you do? Personally, even after months of not missing a day, a late night or an early start can throw me off, bringing me back to an irregular practice. Does this sound familiar to you?
Lately, I’ve been using an affirmation to overcome this doubt, and it’s been quite helpful. I repeat to myself, “I meditate every day. It’s just who I am. It’s what I do.” It’s a simple mantra that I introduce into my mind throughout the day. I’ve done this while walking to work and even during meditation. I find that thoughts intentionally introduced into a relatively still mind have a greater impact. Try saying these words to yourself before sleep or jot them down as a reminder.
This affirmation helps build the expectation of daily meditation into my sense of self, making it feel less like an additional task. I’m not guaranteeing this will work for everyone, but it’s worth a try as an experiment. Perhaps it will help you too.
Integrating meditation into daily activities can be tough, especially with other life commitments. Some people find tools like the Insight Meditation Timer helpful. This app allows you to share your meditation sessions and see your progress, adding a level of accountability. For others, affirming their identity as a person who meditates daily can remove the burden of doubt and make the practice more consistent.
Ultimately, the key might be finding what works best for you, recognizing that this practice is a journey rather than a destination. Adjust your approach as needed and remember that even a few minutes of meditation can be beneficial. Keep experimenting until you find a routine that seamlessly integrates into your life, supporting your mental and emotional well-being.