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In a series of six posts, I explain how teachings from early Buddhist scriptures can help us break free from social media addiction. These teachings come from the Vitakkasanthana Sutta, which outlines five strategies for overcoming persistent thoughts and urges. I call this the “Social Media Sutra” because it’s catchy and directly relates these ancient teachings to our modern lives.
When I say we’re addicted to social media, I mean we use it compulsively despite its negative impact on ourselves and others. This is a hallmark of addiction: we keep doing something harmful but feel powerless to stop.
Social media addiction can have secondary consequences. We might feel ashamed and secretive about our social media habits or experience anxiety when trying to cut back. Additionally, indulging in social media can lead to another addiction—becoming attached to feelings of anger and outrage.
The Social Media Sutra offers five tools to help us overcome these urges. The first tool suggests that when focusing on something that brings about negative thoughts and emotions, we should shift our attention to something positive. The Buddha likened this to using a smaller peg to knock out a larger one, emphasizing the power of redirecting our focus.
It’s important to note that social media itself isn’t inherently bad. The problem arises when we engage with it in an addictive manner. This includes not just social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter, but also other online activities such as reading news or playing games.
Mindfulness gives us the ability to observe our actions and choose a more beneficial path. It’s about recognizing that some choices lead to happiness while others lead to unhappiness. Mindfulness allows us to stand back, observe our cravings and emotions, and make healthier decisions. This isn’t always easy as becoming mindful can bring uncomfortable feelings like shame. But self-blame only feeds the problem.
Having a tendency toward addiction isn’t a personal failure; it’s a result of certain conditions in our lives. Therefore, we shouldn’t blame ourselves but instead take responsibility to make better choices.
To apply this teaching, start by being mindful and recognizing when you’re unhappy because of your actions. Identify the negative mental habit and think of a more positive alternative.
For instance, if you’re addicted to constant stimulation, try taking a mindful break and pay attention to physical sensations and your surroundings. This kind of wholesome input can be more satisfying than the endless scroll through social media.
If you’re craving attention and validation, this might mean you’re not feeling good about yourself. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you matter and you’re enough.
When dealing with “outrage addiction,” bring empathy and compassion into the situation. Recognize your feelings of anger as suffering. Offer yourself kindness and understand that the person you’re angry with also experiences happiness and suffering just like you. This can help you communicate in a more empathetic way.
Remember, mindfulness and compassion need to be applied consistently over time. Changing your habits won’t happen overnight, so be patient with yourself.
In my experience, the three most common forms of social media addiction are craving stimulation, craving attention, and craving outrage. Addressing these cravings with mindful attention and self-compassion can significantly improve our relationship with social media.
One final practice I use is a mantra: “Trust the Dharma.” When tempted to mindlessly check social media, I remind myself to trust in mindfulness and the power of making conscious choices. Trust that contentment is possible by being present in the moment.
So, the first tool to manage social media addiction is shifting our focus to something positive and skillful. This allows us to cultivate happier, healthier habits.
Trust in your ability to be present, to matter, and to connect empathetically with yourself and others. Trust the process; it works.